While most people recognize a tight smile that has much tension and little openness, they do not recognize less obvious examples. To me, there is a clear difference between the Dalai Lama's smile and the smile of an adult who is smiling to cover over tension. In most adults' laughing faces, there is tightness and an intensity that is missing in a wide-open child's face.
If you look closely at the faces of many small children, you see how open, merry and bubbling over with laughter/joy their faces can be. These facial expressions are lost for most adults, including most New Age teachers; the tension and hurt of decades shows through even when smiling.
While adult expression often mimics that of a child, it just doesn't quite make it. Tension shows up in adult faces even when they claim to be feeling calm. While most people recognize major tension in the face, they do not recognize the more subtle signs that show a person's "happy" smile is actually indicative of a covering over of stress and pain. Please understand that this is subtle and may not be easy for you. It will take significant amounts of inner peace inside you before you will have much skill at reading faces in this way.
© 2008 by Thayer White
Finding Your Soul in the Spirituality Maze
|Excerpt from Be Your Own Therapist: "The judgments that usually cause us the most difficulties and distress are those that (1)judge situations/ others as right or wrong, (2)judge situations/ others as good or bad, or (3)judge situations as possible or impossible."|