Love (Its Sexual Expression) - Lust. Sexual behavior is usually accompanied by a feeling of significant lust, which may or may not occur within the context of a significant relationship with that sexual partner. The feeling of love (described in an earlier paragraph) may or may not accompany the lust/sexual behavior. Many of us, because of training or trauma, have lost either our capability to have sexual relations with others or our lust. Either loss is much to our detriment.
Emotionally Healthy Adults (with respect to love):
Are comfortable saying the words "I love you" to men, women and children in a feeling way.
Are comfortable hugging men, women and children in a feeling way.
"Get" (actually physically receive) the feeling of love when it is directed their way.
Actively confront their conditional loving whenever it appears and change it to unconditional loving.
Express their total lovingness (emotionally, physically, verbally and sexually) with a particular partner.
Decide to love another and then do so.
Few of us achieve all the above. Nevertheless, you will be much happier the closer you duplicate the above responses concerning love. Do you want to make it your personal long-term goal to make some changes in how you feel, express and think about love?
Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor... Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting. Mother Teresa, 1910-1997
© 2008 by Thayer White
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